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The Stigma of the Rich: Does Success in Life Mean Failure in Relationships?

posted 25 Oct 2010, 03:33 by Sam Mbale   [ updated 25 Oct 2010, 03:34 ]

There's a very real phenomenon in this world where people
with more money are often judged and sometimes even
alienated.  There's an actual stigma out there—created
by not only resentment and jealousy but also by this
widespread notion that people who attract and accumulate
money are somehow doing something wrong.  As if they are
cheating the system or doing something unethical to be a
success in life.

So this begs the question—is money worth having if it
means it will repel people?  Does it alienate you?

This whole idea of money being somehow tied to unethical
behavior is an interesting one, and it is a myth that has
certainly rooted its place somewhere in the American
psyche—and indeed, the world at large.  For centuries,
people who could not or did not want to see another idea of
what money represents have perpetuated this lie.

It gets passed down to growing children and we soak up this
idea as we age, imprinting it on the computer of the mind.
Your beliefs really do create your reality and decide your
level of success in life.  They define what is real and what
is not real in your life, and many who learn to think outside
the box find that building the strength to change your
beliefs directly changes your reality and your life.

Since we are grown, thinking adults now, we have the ability
to decide what is true rather than simply rely on every truth
society has given us.  And one great truth that I've found in
my life is that wealth is not inherently evil.

In fact, the people who create wealth and success in their
lives are often the ones that create the most
value—after all, what power does money have but the
power we give it by allowing it to represent value?



And not only that but those with money have the ability, and
often the desire, to give more.  There's no reason to hoard
when they have so much, while someone with a scarcity
mindset must cling to all they have.  In fact, many find the
key to success in life is finding how you can better serve
others.

Here's the answer to the original question though—will
you be alienated by choosing a different belief than that of
modern society?  My question in response to this question
is: why do you care?

Listen, humans are judgmental—especially ignorant
humans.  No matter what you do in this world, someone is
going to judge you and talk about you and perhaps even cause
you problems.  This holds true whether you have money or
don't have money, and it is likely a reality in your life
right now.

95% of the world will never change.  They'll never grow
personally or strive for a better life.  They'll never reach
for success.  Look around you—are these 95% of people
actually happy?  Will they ever be?

What you should concern yourself with is being part of the
5% that pushes for a greater world and a greater existence
on Earth—the 5% that honestly strives to create value
for others. Their contribution is often even contagious,
spreading to others and causing more givers and creators of
value on this Earth.  Their legacy lives on even when they
are gone.

These are often the people who attract and accumulate
wealth.

Don't let other people steer your thoughts about what you
are and what you want in this world.  They know nothing
about you, and in almost all cases, those who judge you are
working from a set of information that is very limited in
scope.  These are the people in the world that you really
should not worry about—they will always find a way to
resent someone and will always be miserable.  They very
rarely have any real success in life.

Find the truth for yourself.  Don't listen to me or anyone
else about what is good and what is not.  Take the time to
think and to grow as a person, decide what brings value to
this world, and then decide if it is worth having a part of.

But never forget that best relationships in this world are
never built on judgment and certainly not the amount of
money—or lack thereof—in your bank account.  It
should be built on respect, trust, and common bonds.
Anything less is not worth worrying yourself over.

About the Author:

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http://www.LiesAboutSuccess.com .  Jim Rohn once said, "My
suggestion would be to walk away from the 90% who don't and
join the 10% who do."  Are you ready to learn the truth?

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