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How to Win A Heart: Show Up Naked

posted 14 Oct 2010, 09:35 by Sam Mbale   [ updated 14 Oct 2010, 09:37 ]

"If you really do want to be an actor who can satisfy himself
and his audience, you need to be vulnerable. You must reach
the emotional and intellectual level of ability where you
can go out stark naked, emotionally, in front of an
audience." - Jack Lemmon, Actor

Jack Lemmon was one of the greatest actors of our time. He
won two Oscars, another 51 acting awards and 41 nominations.
 In 1988 he received the Life Achievement Award of the
American Film Institute.

He knew a little sumthin' sumthin' about touching the hearts
of his audiences through the variety of characters he
portrayed. How did he do it?  He showed up naked in the

The same is true in real life. When you show up naked,
vulnerable, authentic and open, you allow others to
genuinely see who you are.  All true happiness, fulfillment
and success come from living authentically.

If there's something missing in your relationships chances
are you are not expressing how you really think and feel.
You aren't acting from your heart; you're acting from your
head in a vain attempt to impress.

"Too many people spend money they haven't earned, to buy
things they don't want, to impress people they don't like."
- Will Smith, Actor

Pretending to be someone you aren't doesn't feel good. The
pretense can't be sustained. False relationships always
bring pain, misery and dissolution. Yet in an attempt to
find true love people cover themselves up with trappings of
who they are not, or who they think they 'should be'.

In the pretending comes the despair of the lie. The despair
isn't created from lying to other people. It's delivered
through the lie to oneself. Dishonoring who you are. Doing
what is inauthentic. Being a lie.

"Writing songs is super intimate. It's a bit like getting
naked." - Gwen Stefani, Singer/Songwriter

A lasting romance involves creating intimacy by being open,
honest and candid with each other.  Nothing is hidden.  Even
the darkest shadows are known and understood.  People have a
fundamental need to be understood.  How can you be
understood when you're not revealing your truth?  The truth,
spoken with tact, empathy, compassion and love is the
ultimate form of intimacy.

"A poem is a naked person... Some people say that I am a
poet." - Bob Dylan

The truth is poetic power.  People are dynamically attracted
to unwavering positive power. The more time you spend naked,
expressing who you really are, the more comfortable and
engaging you will become in your pursuit of and experience
in an intimate relationship.

It takes moxie, the confident courage (guts, balls, chutzpah
and fortitude) to be willing to show up naked. It's a bit
scary, at first, to be so self aware, honest, trusting and
expressive.  You'll discover that when you do, you'll
attract a partner who loves and understands you, fully and
completely without reservation.

And you'll spend a lot of time naked, in and out of bed!

"Be who you are and say what you feel. Those who mind don't
matter and those who matter don't mind." - Dr. Seuss

About the Author:

Author, Speaker and Inner Wealth Expert, Valery Satterwhite
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