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Do Mean Girls Win the War of Love?

posted 15 Oct 2010, 05:52 by Sam Mbale   [ updated 15 Oct 2010, 05:55 ]

No, According to Therapist, Author and Dale Carnegie Cousin

NEW YORK, NY--(Marketwire - October 12, 2010) -  Do mean girls always win at the war of love? According to therapist Carolyn Kelley North ( and author of to be releasedHow to Win Dates and Influence Relationships, this trend is false. A cousin of Dale Carnegie, Carolyn calls for a return to civilized dating in a world of cads and shrews. 

Ms. North's belief is that the mean girl can hook the man, but she can't keep him. "This bitchy type might be fun in a bar, but when she's in your home and raising your children, the sexy bitch becomes the nasty shrew," according to Ms. North. "Furthermore, this kind of dating will not attract the good guys, only the jerks. As a marriage counselor, I've seen the effects of these aggressive dating strategies...and they're not good."

Ms. North is discussing dating trends this evening at a seminar for Hurry Date and Single Edition on Tuesday, October 12 at 6 p.m. at the Samsung Experience Center, Time Warner Shopping Center, Third Floor. 

She applies Cousin Dale's theories to her job as a therapist to help women get and keep good and healthy relationships. She will teach the attendees her secrets from the couch! How to attract the good ones, ditch the bad ones and be a lady during the process. 

Carolyn believes that we have reached the end of the bitchiness pendulum swing and that people are tired of dating the rude and crude people they see in life and on TV. "Who wants to date Snooki? Who would marry Mel Gibson?" she says. "I've seen people who resemble those characters and I've seen them in my practice. Are they happily married? Of course not!"

Carolyn Kelley North, LCSW, LMFT, is a psychotherapist and author of "How to Win Dates and Influence Relationships." She has practiced in Washington, DC and now resides and works in Boca Raton, Florida. She has been cited in the Wall Street Journal, and numerous other publications. Carolyn is The Savvy Shrink, ( she has practiced as an individual and couples therapist for 15 years. She is a cousin of the well known self help writer, Dale Carnegie.